Fathers Day.. My Top Picks…

So we are midway into 2018 and 7 days from Fathers day.

I have put together my Top 7 buys for the men in your life!

Dadmin

I’ve recently come across this business and straight away wanted everything for the Hubby, these two products, would be a fab idea for a gift, especially for those awkward men in your life.

Dadmin book £9.99 Author Kevin Pettman is the proud owner of two little people and his days are full of Dadmin duties. He’s somehow mastered the art of making spag bol, putting up a shelf and painting the shed all at the same time. Every other Bank Holiday he’s allowed an afternoon off from Dadmin, purchase here

A hashtag poem £26.99 for parent’s that are doing a great job. Written by Dadmin.

Presented in a high quality black photo frame this will look great on any wall or shelf. A fantastic gift, to remind all the dads of what great jobs they do to help. Purchase here

First Man In

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You must of come across this legend! From the fabulous SAS Who dares wins series… don’t know about you, but my hubby & I have been hooked on that show and the main man, Ant Middleton since it began… OK well I have been hooked on Ant haha

He has brought out a book ‘First man in’ £10 (Hardcover) and it looks amazing. Over the course of his career he has served in the Special Boat Service, the Royal Marines and 9 Parachute Squadron Royal, achieving what is known as the ‘Holy Trinity’ of the UK’s Elite Forces. Purchase here

My 1st Years

These Tee’s from My 1st Years, are a fab pressie & team with your little person for that extra cuteness.

‘I’m exhausted’ matching dad & baby set £32 100% ultra soft cotton, and in a range of sizes, all gift come in a free gift box, that can be treasured. Purchase here

‘Best dad ever’ matching set also £32, purchase here

Beer Hawk

 

Now, what guy doesn’t love a beer or two? £20 Purchase here

This fabulous gift set from Beer Hawk, has all the feels, Featuring five amazing beers, a packet of classic crunchy nuts and a Dad’s Beer glass, it’s the best way to say ‘Cheers Dad!’ on June 17th.

So what’s in the box? Here’s the complete run down: 1 x Victory Headwater Pale Ale- Pale Ale, 1 x Goose Island IPA- IPA, 1 x Hoegaarden- Belgian Wit, 1 x Roosters Yankee- Pale Ale, 1 x Magic Rock Dancing Bear- Lager, 1 x Bier Nuts, 1 x ‘Dad’s Beer’ Glass

OHSO Box

If you are local to Surrey and love beautifully curated sets for your loved ones, OHSO box are for you.

The Papa gift box edit is gorgeous £48

This gift box has been curated for the modern Father.  A handcrafted tan leather key ring with your choice of either DADDY or PAPA, as well as a 12oz Frank Green coffee cup combining function, form and sustainability, making this a perfect gift for Father’s Day, Birthday or a Daddy-to-be.  Packaged and delivered in a simple white gift box and ribbon. Purchase here

 

ALL by MAMA – check out here

This is a new business, I have come across and its fantastic, a market place for creative parents to showcase their businesses. Take a look, there is so much choice & wonderful gift ideas, here’s a couple from them.

by FromLucy 

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Dad Challenges £9.95

This is a clever & lovely gift, 36 pre written cards, with challenges & ideas to spend more time with family & friends. Purchase here

 

by In The Box Gifts

Sponsored by Coffee gift box £30

When I came across this, I thought yes yes yes, I love the milestone cards for dads, this is a great gift, especially, if like me you love photos & keeping memories, plus the added bonus of coffee and a gorgeous mug. Purchase here

In the box

  • Papa Bear Mug by Pushka Home
  • Daddy Milestone Cards by This Mama Does
  • Breakfast Blend (ground) Coffee by Black Mountain Roast Coffee

 

Happy shopping

B x

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Piglet’s picks.. 9-12 m

I’ve been so excited for this update of Piglets picks… These are all new and available now

These gorgeous dresses are 100% cotton, they will be perfect for the cooler days, and can team with some leggings, online here at Next £14 each

I feel like i’m all about stripes and blue this season

The top is a gorgeous Broderie detail from Next £8 here The Denim dress from Matalan £7 can be found here

The Rompers are a two pack from Next, again amazing from summer, lightweight and comfy £15 found here

This three piece from Next is just so cute, I love the statement tee, alongside the floaty vest and bloomer shorts £17 found here

These two pieces are from M&Co and I feel bring a bit of girly esk and colour to her wardrobe. Lightweight and soft.

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Another M&Co item, a different denim dress, I love the opposites created and the patchwork, it would be fab with some little pumps.

The owl dress, its beautiful, its handmade by a friends aunt and its just so lovely, got and take a look on her Etsy, she makes to order and its 18-24 months £20 (so to be kept) check out here

The three piece romper set is from Dashing & Dainty, which you can get in M&Co £18

I couldn’t agree more… Piglet is definitely a Little girl with Big dreams and too right…

The two set is from Next £13 and you can check out here

The bloomers are again from one of my Insta favs, Rose and Guy £14 can be seen here

The gorgeous woodland harems by the lovely Lily and Giraffe £16 can be seen here

 

I love fashion & spreading the love, that I thought ild try out a new way to get us all sharing our favourite pieces, share your favs using the hashtag #pigletspicks and we can all enjoy 🙂

B xx

What we get up to now Piglet goes to bed….

I’ve intrigued you haven’t I ?

Well sorry to disappoint ha ha, well actually some of you, might actually find it interesting.. hmm

So Piglet at 7 months started to go down at an actual bed time, in her crib….

We started this off with a celebratory Maccy D’s, the nights that have followed, you would think we would use this time to get through some box sets maybe, or have a conversation about our day…

Erm nope.. so far

  • Boxed up some unnecessary clutter
  • Dusted shelves and bookacse
  • Folded clothes
  • Cleaned kitchen floor
  • Washing up
  • Reminisced about the nights, where piglet would be on me, asleep on the nursing pillow, until 1am.. sob sob
  • Not once have we, got an early night to get a full night of zzzz, I think the earliest is 11.45pm.. when will we learn!
  • Hubby completed a 1000 black & white piece puzzle, so rock n roll…hmmm
  • Catched up on Homeland
  • I’ve tried to read more, you should see the pile of books awaiting my attention, all of which found by the fab squares on insta
  • Scrolled the squares on insta
  • Cleaned the bathroom
  • Watched piglet intensely on her monitor..

 

Please tell me, that everyone’s evenings are like this and I’m not completely alone.. in the most boring life contest ha ha

If anyone has any suggestions (clean suggests please.. wink wink) that myself or the hubby can do with our well deserved evenings, then comment below 🙂

My favourite 6-9 month picks for Piglet..

IMG_3066I had dressed piglet in outfits but mainly the odd leggings here, that kind of thing. When they are tiny, they always seem so un-comfy in outfits.

Its from 6 months, that I found myself buying lots more to dress her in, rather than a baby grow.. although I have to say I do LOVE a baby grow.

This lovely number was a present, its from Next, although having ‘up to 3 months’ on the label, It was perfect for the recent summer day we had a few weeks ago.

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You may notice a theme going on, as to where I shop, this gorgeous floral romper is from Next.

 

 

 

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Because Girls can LOVE dinosaurs too right! I love this because, its a vest, but with the impression of a top, stunning ruffle capped sleeves, a great buy from Baby Gap

 

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The cutest dungarees, these were actually Monkey’s and were a John Lewis product, teamed with a fabulous Rose and Guy topknot bow, check them out here, they even do mummy ones.

 

 

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One of my favourite tops, its from M&Co, its not my sort of place, but for children, you can pick up some lovely pieces.

 

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Yep, you’ve guessed it Next, its super soft and she always seems so comfy in this.

 

 

 

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Another fav of mine, who doesn’t love a bit of denim, just be careful when washing, I accidentally turned the white bits on the separate top a little blue…. This is from Matalan, and its something that will last her through the summer.. If we have one! Teamed with yet another Rose and Guy topknot bow.

 

 

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You cant have some picks without some accessories, so here’s Piglet’s first proper pair of shoes… (she has others, that she was given, when she was tiny) These are from the fabulous Moc and Me, they are 6-12 months, take a look here

 

 

 

 

 

Ergobaby – Omni 360 Cool Air Mesh

“Ergobaby provided the Omni 360 Cool Air Mesh for me to try and review.”

It came perfectly packaged & lots of information within the booklet.

It came, just in time for a weekend in the country, with my parents, we had lots planned, so to take this carrier was very exciting.

Although the booklet is great, you do need to have a proper look, as to put on, and secure baby, you need to know what you are doing.

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The hubby and I did struggle for a little bit, trying to figure out what to do.

Mainly due to the fact, we cant seem to do a task together without some frustration ha ha

 

Once piglet was safely in, straight away, I knew this was a great product.

 

 

 

 

We spent the day at a car museum, So piglet was carried by me, for a fair few hours, and it didn’t feel like that, She felt supported, as did I.

She was nearing 8 months at the time, so not a light newborn, and it was so comfortable.

There’s a mini “bum bag” by their feet, which I used to carry, my phone, her dummy, that kind of thing.

There is also a rain cover that comes out of the part near their chest and ties to straps to keep baby dry, which strangely for the UK, I didn’t need to use, but when we do, I’ll update this.

 

 

I was using the Baby Bjorn for many months, although it wasn’t ideal for my ‘baby carrier fitness class’. The Ergo baby was by far, amazing for this, doing a fitness class with a baby attached to you, you need all the support you can get, and this carrier was great for this. Especially the mesh part, it allowed us both to breath far easier, the shoulder straps are so comfortable on your shoulders and weight is distributed evenly. The only thing I would say, is, it takes a little time to get the hang of removing baby, as can be a little tricky. But that could be down to being a sweaty tired mumma, after the class!!

Piglet, always seems content and happy and this is the most important thing to me, she is supported, and I am comfortable, I never have the feeling of… get this off of me! So to me, that’s a win win.

I am yet to try the different options available on this carrier, including a hip hold and carrying them on your back, so will update when we try this.

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I highly recommend this carrier, All thoughts are my own, Please ask permission before sharing or using my imagery.

“It’s ‘Tricky’ Mummy” !….

You may of seen my Instagram post yesterday about Monkey’s first gymnastics session! Well the short of it, was he broke my heart, he didn’t want to try, as he didn’t know how & felt it was ‘tricky’

Well this has prompted me to open up, I’m petrified and even more nervous to even be saying this out loud, for fear of judgements & being spoken about!

Its also something, I have been ‘thinking’ about writing for a while now, (many versions sitting in my drafts, depending what mood I was in)

But yesterday sparked this uneasy feeling in me! What if Monkey ‘has’ what I do?!?

OK so by ‘has’ I’m not sure that’s the right wording, but I have Anxiety! ahhhh this really isn’t easy for me! I think even sometimes, its even the verge of depression!

You see, I’m scared, if not, sometimes, petrified, to admit, things do not feel OK, that I couldn’t tell you when the last time I had a complete month of feeling A OK! I’m scared that everyone around me, will see me differently, see me ‘as that girl who has issues’

See this is the problem, my thoughts, how I feel, what my mind tells me! I’ve been called all sorts for coming across ‘miserable’ ‘moany’ ‘negative’ but sometimes I actually cannot help it!

Most of the time, I would say people would describe me as happy go lucky, a chatter box, that one that says “yeah i’m OK” , now…sometimes, this is the case, but i’m pretty good at hiding it…

I’m already sh**ing it! Opening up, that I will be treated different, that no one will bother, that’s already a MAIN issue of mine..

People..

My mind is forever telling me that I’m not important to the ones around me, and day to day I believe it, I don’t really know why I feel this way.

I’ve seen a counsellor a few times and usually this helps, there’s not a reason as to why my mind does this.. there’s not an event that started this, and seeing Jonny Wilkinson on This Morning recently, completely resonated with me!

He said how his was more the ‘can do better’ that before a game he just couldn’t bring himself to go out there and mine isn’t like that, the parts that I resonated with was that he felt it had been since a child, and since he said this, POW.. I thought yes! I always thought this was recent events, but thinking about it, I’ve had feelings like this on and off for soooo many years.

At junior school, that automatic feeling of I cant do that, feeling afraid to put my hand up to answer a question, to wanting to please everyone, to be liked and never to disappoint anyone!

Unfortunately, this seems to have carried through, in one way or another, Forever the helper, wanting to solve everyone’s problems, and maybe this is a cover for dealing with my own!

This is my issue and its not everyday, sometimes it can be a few months, but then equally it can be every day for a few weeks, I don’t seem to have a trigger! but the more I’ve been home, the more my mind wanders into negativity!

Its been a week where I’ve not had one person ask how are you? (apart from the hubby) and its silly, these are the times of my ‘episodes’ that somewhat trigger a negative mood. I’ll start to think, no one likes me, I have no one, no one cares anymore, I’m only useful when they want someone… (I have to say sometimes this is true) But I even know when its happening, that in some ways i’m being ridiculous, that my mind is just being horrible to me!

But it can really take me into a not very nice place, especially, if I’ve then had a row with the hubby, or ‘one’ of ‘those’ days with the kids, then I go into this.. I just want to run away mood, now it never happens and it isn’t realistic, as I love my family and kids more than anything! but my mind takes me to the.. will anyone notice or even mind!

I have this real issue of thinking (see this is the issue.. thinking)

That i’m always being judged, what i’m doing, what I look like, that I’m not living my life how people ‘expect’ me to!

Anxiety or at least that’s what I think it is.. seems to have a hold on me and I don’t know what to do, to let it go.

Having some counselling, as I’ve mentioned above, has helped, as in, i’m more aware and I know when its happening, which is a great sign and certainly an improvement! I can usually talk myself back into reality!

It does affect areas of my life, it certainly ruined my work life, don’t get me wrong the place in general added to the stress and strain, but the way I went about things and dealt with it, whole heartily was down to this.. in fact, its at work that I had my first and in a way, last panic attack, it all got too much and I knew I had to speak to someone!

Its something that affects not only my mood, but my sleep, looking after myself, I make sure the kids are OK all of the time and sometimes forget about me!

Its the devil on my shoulder telling me, why are you bothering with this ‘blog’! (for instance) No one cares, no ones interested, you’re over sharing, keep things to yourself…. I can go on!!

Thing is, I’m OK with at least trying things, meeting new people, but I seem to give up at the first hurdle, I’ve done courses and then never used them, met people who don’t then stay in touch!

This is the greatest issue for me! That feeling like you are still a child and no one likes you! and that you have nothing to aim for in life!

Now when I am being rationale, I know I have friends that care, that my goal at the moment is my children, and maybe career aspirations may happen along side that!

 

And yesterday, when Monkey uttered those words to me! ‘Its Tricky Mummy’

I wanted to burst into tears & wrap him up & shelter him from everything. My little boy, for only 10 minutes, looked over at the other children, who all seemed to know how to do everything, and maybe even know each other! He had the look of fear, and I could tell immediately what he meant by ‘its tricky’

He was afraid, anxious, unsure, as he didn’t know how!!!!

This is something that has featured, in and out of my whole life, in one way or another, and only recently have I noticed this!

Last night, when the kiddies were in bed, I cried and hugged my husband, I cried and cried, explaining to him, that I felt all my fears where happening!, That my gorgeous, clever , little boy, was going to have a life of feeling like he couldn’t do something! That he would feel this way, because of ME!

That he is stuck with my DNA, therefore he would be broken!!!

My hubby is amazing, and made me realise, that all we can do is guide and help, Monkey & Piglet! That yes, they both, may have times they don’t feel they can, but for us as their parents, can help build them up! also to be there when & if they fall!

This has spurred me, to not only work on not feeling like this!

But maybe, and its a massive maybe, that by being honest and open, even if, I can only do it to, my virtual world, then its an easier day!

And if, just by being honest, I have helped anyone! Then laying this out, for the world to see, was worth it!

I will make it my mission to ensure both my babies, never ever feel that they cant do something, that not everything works out, but trying & believing in yourself is far more powerful

And in the words of my gorgeous boy, it maybe be ‘tricky’ but still give it a go… and lets see

#itstrickymummy

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Our Boobing Journey..

*FYI- Look away if boobs offend you! I’ve shared my journey which include photos of me feeding my babies*

I’ve started to write this, when piglet and I, are days away from our breastfeeding ‘boobing’ journey, it’s coming very near to the end.. sob sob

With monkey, I didn’t acknowledge all my feelings with breastfeeding, the beginning was a nightmare, he latched after being born, but the next day, when the midwifes wanted to check (being the first) He wouldn’t play ball, he didn’t know what he was doing, I didn’t know what I was doing! I was poked and prodded, boobs squeezed, to get the slightest drip out with a syringe! I said at the time I just needed to be at home in the comfort of our surroundings. When I did get home, we laid and practiced and he eventually latched! Being my first I didn’t realise the stress it would cause, that you should pull them off and put on again if sore! I would cry through some feeds as my nipples were so sore! So many times my hubby would say ‘lets just put him on a bottle’ It would break my heart to even contemplate that, and I would just battle through! ‘I can’t put him on bottle! I should be feeding him like this’ I never sought help, I got advice from the health visitor and friends, but I didn’t explain how hard it was!

After 6 weeks we did find our way, I think partially the nipples got used to it, once I knew what I was doing, the feeding got better.

caleb bfI was eventually fine, the covering up didn’t seem so important, I would whip them out whenever he needed, I was exposed many times, cheeky monkey.. literally!

From about 4 months, maybe.. from memory, my hubby would give him a bottle as his last feed of the night!

When we started on food, his feeding habits changed, then at 5.5 months when he was on 3 meals a day ish, he would get fussier and fussier on the boob!! I didn’t think much about it, I was sad but it seemed the norm to just go with the flow! I just wanted him to be getting what he needed, so one day I just gave him a bottle on his first feed and boom that was it, no more booby, there was no plan, no lead up! Monkey totally decided! and so by 6 months he was no longer breastfed!

 

 

Fly all the way to the present and piglet is 8 months on Monday… this experience has been so different, with, some similarities.

 

 

She too, fed minutes after birth, she took to it straight away! was like riding a bike! I thought that way too, We know what we are doing… I was wrong! It took a few days for the milk to actually come in, didn’t help being completely sleep deprived and she fussed and couldn’t settle!

Few days in, we got our groove on. I’m not sure if my instinct from monkey set in, some mistakes I had made with his feeding!, But any time she didn’t quite latch, I took her off and put her back on. We still had the hard 6 weeks, like I had with monkey, it seems lots of people have the same 6 weeks… but this time I added a support group on Facebook and that was my life line, I posted a few times, but it was more knowing there were mummies in the same position as me, feeling the same, going through this journey. That at 3 am when you are feeding or they are not settling, that there’s someone else feeling the same!

 

Again like monkey, we soon got into the swing if it, just she FED alllll the time, if she wasn’t sleeping, she was boobing! Hence her nickname ha ha

I always had 5 months ish in mind, as wanted everything like I had with monkey! Again we would give a bottle here and there, just in the event of us going out, if she couldn’t wait, then my parents or my hubby could settle her, we’ve only been out an handful of times, but we are happy she got used to one!

 

I flit in and out, of wanting her, to be boobing, but time has just flown and actually when I think about it, it makes me so sad! Its that feeling of no longer being needed, the feeling of not being the ONLY one to settle her! I’ve also felt much more empowered and part of an amazing community, mainly on Instagram, as that is, where I hang out! Its somewhere I have shared my experiences and shared imagery, I NEVER thought I would, but its OK, its somewhere its accepted, to be proud, and enjoy feeding your baby!

(can I just say if you haven’t breastfed, there is no judgement here, in my opinion and that’s all it is, is ultimately a baby needs feeding and if that means by bottle, then good on you! happy mummy happy baby… )

Around 7 months the hubby gave her a bottle as her ‘last feed’ of the night, a few days later and she went into her big cot in her big bros room.. eekk

Since then, and being on 3 meals a day,  shes currently fussing more, just like monkey did, the last few days shes been having an afternoon bottle too, so shes only really boobing in the morning, I just know its days away from her going onto bottle full time.

I am so sad! and anxious, I never in a million years thought I would even get this far, let alone approaching month 8! Now I see why there’s so many mummies that are still feeding past year one.

I do think, yay no more wearing a bra at night time, no more breast pads, and thinking about what to wear and can you pull a boob out! But its more than that, I’ve enjoyed it, its me and her time, that no one else gets, the looks, only I get, that time to just relax with each other.. OK, i’m sorry, its all cliche, but for me, I really mean it!

I’m not sure i’m quite ready to give it all up! but ultimately, piglet is deciding and its her choice! I will do what she wants!………

My tips for feeding-

  • If you want to cover up! Anything works, muslin’s, jumpers, blankets (as long as you keep an eye to make sure they are not over heating and can breath)
  • Stock up on lots and lots of CHOCOLATE, its a saviour when you need that calorie and energy boost (obviously a good diet and vitamins too, but where is the fun in that?!)
  • Drink lots of water, you can get so dehydrated
  • Lansinoh cream, esp the first few weeks its a God send!
  • Lansinoh Breast pads, I’ve tried so many types and these, really are, amazing
  • Good nursing bras, supportive, and get a few. I’ve seen some ladies recommend New Look as a good place to get some, mine happen to be from John Lewis (but are a little pricey)
  • A decent nursing pillow, mine was by Widgey, its very soft and supportive for you and baby
  • Get comfy, ensure you have pillows behind you, to support your back
  • Try all positions, you will find ones that work for you

Above all else, keep at it, but if for any reason, its not happening for you or your baby, please do not worry, firstly get your health visitor to check for tongue tie, push for a check if you still feel something isn’t quite right! your instinct is always right!

Even if you try, and it still isn’t right for you! That’s OK! (not that you need my permission) but a baby fed by any means, is the right thing! Bottle or Boob who cares as long as mummy is happy then so will your baby 🙂

It worked for me, and I thoroughly enjoyed my journey, but it doesn’t always go that way!

 

If you need support please take a look and also ask your health visitor, don’t suffer! breastfeeding support link

 

*All thoughts are my own, I’ve not been paid to advertise any products mentioned*